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Building Trust With Your Teenage Child
Did you, while giving birth thought that it was the most challenging thing in the world and everything next will come easy to you? Of course, you have. But now that your baby has grown into a teen, I have one question to ask you. Do you still think giving birth was the toughest? Have you tried raising a teen? Trust me, if you feel that your life is getting boring and dull and you should adopt some useful hobby, raising a teen will prove to be an extreme sport for you. There will be a point in your life as a teenager's parent that if anyone asks you how you are doing, you will probably burst into tears because your teen is not easy on you. Ahh, the joys of parenting!
Of course, there is a solution to the situation of all the parents raising a teen. 'Building trust.' In fact, developing trust in your relationship with a teen is exactly what you need to understand the requirements of your teenage child. Going through puberty is not easy for your kid. Neither is it for you to see the behavioral change, but building a strong bond with your child will help you get along. Here are a few ways to build trust with your teenage child and make parenting a lot easier for you
1. Become his or her role model
Children reflect on what they see and listen. You must remember that your kid is going through significant changes in his life, and you should model your lifestyle accordingly. Your teenage child will watch your every step, and if you want them to grow into the person, you desire them to become, you should step up and model the expected behavior.
2. Spend time together
Do you know what makes parenting a lot easier? Spending time together. And the conversations you have at the dinner table as a family with your teenage child are a sure way of breeding frankness and comfortability. Your child will open up to you, and you will be able to assess his needs without having to snoop through his personal stuff or spying on him.
3. Develop the habit of telling him your life experiences
One of the easiest ways of building trust is to have a conversation with your teenage child that is rooted in honesty. Tell him about your life experiences. Tell him that you have been through the same and have made many mistakes that you certainly don't want him to repeat. When you tell your teen your past mistakes, you open for him an opportunity to raise the bar of the standards and morals he holds himself to.
4. Be consistent in what you tell them
One of the obvious ways of building trust is to be consistent in what you tell your teen. If you say to him that you won't invade his personal space unless he remains open to you, be consistent. Make your kid trust your promises.
From the founder of Bitesizedessentials.com